RELIGIOUS TRAUMA IS A TRAUMA OF ITS OWN
Ever wish you could date + have sex without the baggage?
If only there was someone to guide you through it…
Oh wait, there is!
It’s me, hi 👋🏻 Hannah Brents, trauma therapist and theologian.
I was an angry ex-fundie for years until I, well, quite frankly got tired of being angry. And after years of working with other ex-fundies and people deconstructing their faith, I’m confident I’m not the only one.
With this philosophy, I help tired-of-being-angry, still-spiritually-curious millennials date + have sex with confidence, instead of…
✘ Trying to live up to an impossible standard
✘ Trying to fill a role you don’t fit into
✘ Gaslighting yourself into what you "should" do
✘ Being in relationships that aren’t aligned with your identity or values.
I’M SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE BECAUSE…
Real Talk: Sex Did NOT Come Naturally to Me
My Story
I had a late sexual debut in my mid-20s because I literally could not get my body to cooperate. It was still conditioned to behave according to the indoctrinated purity culture beliefs long after I didn’t believe them anymore.
{ cue: robot mode }
Realizing the first time I had sex that it wasn’t the “it” purity culture made it out to be forced me to take an active role in redefining it for myself.
➥ My biggest take home message?
➥ How do I want to communicate?
➥ How is this for my partner?
➥ Who am I in sex?
➥ What do I like?
➥ Am I safe?
These questions all matter more than whether purity culture would approve.
So maybe your journey looks less like robot mode, and more like:
✓ Feeling frozen at the idea of or during sex
✓ Nothing about physical intimacy feels natural to you
✓ Dating all the wrong people
✓ Disconnected from your body and no idea what you like
Take home is the same: Sex is about being fully embodied as an active participant.
Goal:
Step into your sexual liberation era.
FAST FORWARD:
I learned the security that comes from a loving, committed partner the long way.
Yep, that’s right. 500 miles to be exact.
I was deep in app dating when I left on a solo trip to walk the Camino de Santiago, without a guidebook in sight. I met my now-husband on day 4 and we walked the better part of 4 weeks together.
We walked from completely different backgrounds, countries, languages, ideas about God and religion, and dating histories, and walked toward a deep love and respect that is founded, not on what we agree on, but on the freedom in loving each other.
That freedom in dating and sex is exactly what I’ve helped countless clients with in individual therapy and therapy intensives over the years in my private practice, Safe Talk Therapy.
Our freedom approach
to sex and relationships
helps millennials like YOU drop the guilt and shame so that you can date + have sex with confidence
WORDS FROM OUR CLIENTS THAT HAVE US BLUSHING
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“Hannah, you’re brilliant…but your pop culture knowledge is a D- at best.”
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“I feel like you made a connection to something I hadn’t yet begun to connect in myself.”
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“Thank you for helping me process my faith transition!”
Obsessive, novice knitter
Knitting is at once my main coping skill, an after dinner past time, and ethically sourced clothing. Can’t stop. won’t stop.
Friends & 90s romcoms
Is it anxiety that makes me prefer the same show and movies over and over that I’ve always loved? Maybe. Am I mad about it? Nope.
Chips & salsa is my kryptonite
What can I say? I’m from Texas. I have no willpower.
Croissants & cappuccinos
Whenever I’m in Europe I eat my weight in croissants and cappuccinos. From my POV, I left home and family so it is my god-given right to eat them every day. Maybe even two 😉
Little Known Facts About Hannah
(that everyone probably already knows)
AS SEEN IN…
Are we the perfect TSwift combo for your new era?
Your sexual liberation era
You bring your determination to leave behind all the crap that’s no longer serving you.
I’ll bring my clinical expertise to help your body and brain get on the same page
Together, we’ll redefine what healthy sexuality and romance looks like for you so you can confidently cultivate the sex and relationships you yearn for.